// i – Kendrick Lemar //
So I upped and left my family in Scotland suddenly to go to London for a trip. I did it randomly and because well, I wanted too. While I had those days away from everyone I realised and relearnt some things I thought I’d share with you all…
1. Don’t be all talk.
Saying things and doing things are completely different, might seem obvious but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t DO the things you SAY you will. For example, quite a few times I’ve heard (especially from my family) “you won’t do that”/”it’s all talk” so I guess I got sick of all of the put downs and did it. I grabbed some clothes and went to London all on my own. So don’t just say things and feel you “aren’t the guygirl who can do that” because of other people. F*ck that, do it and don’t just say you will do. Doing things for yourself is important, it gives you confidence to do more and believe you can do what you want.
2. Google Maps is an app you need.
Good old Google Maps never fails me. Being lost is frightening but having that trusty app on my phone helps, especially to find new places to see you usually wouldn’t have found.
3. Trying things you want too will strengthen you.
You want to spend an evening in an art gallery? Do it. You want to drink green juice? Do it. You want to take a picture at the top of a building? Do it. You want to try fitness classes or art classes or language classes? Do it. People may mock you and try to get a reaction out of you but it’s you who’s missing out of not trying things just because other people haven’t seen the need. That is what makes you individual I think, wanting to do things others may not.
4. Your parents are just people.
Now this might sound simple, but realising your parents aren’t the great messiah you must obey and go along with what they say is important. You don’t have to believe what they believe nor do you have to be what they want. Your parents are still human beings, they still have growing to do and things to learn and as hilarious as it is, they aren’t always right. What I’ve realised is you can still love a person but not have to get along or share beliefs with. Like Ed Sheeran understands in Runaway “I love him from the skin to my bones, but I don’t wanna live in this home.” Parents are people. Just people and as awful as it might feel not being able to do the things they wish you would, that doesn’t make you a bad person.
5. You don’t leave school knowing everything.
Okay I admit, when I left school I thought I’d know what I’d want to do, even if that was just what course at university to do. Now I’ve realised that life is so much bigger and more complicated than I first thought and as scary as that is, it’s also pretty fun to know I can learn more things and I CAN CHANGE MY MIND! At school I feel the teachers force you do figure out what you want to do, it’s like a ticking time bomb before they ship you off somewhere else and you aren’t their issue. You can take time on your own to try things out. You aren’t a failure if you drop out of uni or college. You’ve actually had the balls to not stay doing something you’d hate.
6. You’ll never completely know people, like your family.
Now this I found weird. Your family are the first people you know and have in your life usually, so to know that they have other aspects of their life and you probably won’t get that nor learn about things they’ve experienced is really weird. It’s like learning when you were young that teachers had lives outside school. Yes, that sort of weird.
7. Who you are can surprise you.
Now this one I found disconcerting but sadly true (or not sadly? Depends what you’ve realised about yourself). Anyway, you might think you’ve got parts of you figured out or set in stone but then something will come along and you’ll be pushed back five steps, back to being a confused pre-teen. At first, it’s horrible (or liberating) but after you can move forward knowing that little part of you is better.
8. Knocking things off as fake/sneering at displays of emotion isn’t good.
It may sound cheesy to you, but it seems most day’s people won’t believe the great things in front of them. “Her happiness is fake”/”He can’t be that nice in real life”/”Her boobs aren’t real” etc etc are just a few things people will deem fake. Some people can be happy or nice or even have great boobs and that DOESN’T make them fake. This whole idea of everyone around you being false, from parts of an appearance to people openly displaying emotion is crazy. Not everything happens like in the movies but at the same time, not everything is stick to simply being in movies. People CAN be deeply in love or be passionate about something or even cry hysterically – that doesn’t mean it’s fake or ‘for show’. Move with it instead of trying to put someone down. Honestly, be emotional or enthusiastic or sad and don’t knock it off as ‘being stupid’ or fearing people will mock. It’s valid and instead of knocking people away, try to take it in and understand. Trying to be this cool, coldhearted person isn’t actually that admirable.
SO after that long winded insight into my brain, I’m going to leave.
I hope you all have a lovely weekend and I’ll see you next time you lovely lot,